I love Pintrest...truly! I find it to be a GREAT escape from the drama infested Facebook, Twitter, etc. There are no conversations, no accusations and I haven't seen ANY hint of Sub-Pintresting to this point! With that said, of all the boards I've created to my Pintrest account (I think I'm up to 70 something...don't judge), the one I've dedicated to inspiring quotes is my favorite. I have found some AMAZING quotes that I, either find apply to my life or they SHOULD apply to my life. There are a lot of golden nuggets of wisdom in the world of Pintrest! However, there are a TON that I've found disturbing...fools gold, if you will!
The ones that bother me most are the ones that speak of "following ones heart"in relationships. Follow my heart?! I don't want to devalue the heart...after all, it IS the pump that keeps everything functioning. Without it...we'd die! I can, ALSO appreciate the way it acts as a barometer for our emotions. When I hold a woman's hand for the first time, it races. When I'm cuddling, it slows to a calming rhythm. But, how long do these emotions last? They're ALL temporary...some longer than others, but no emotion last forever so WHY would I "follow my heart"?!
When we were created, we were equipped with a brain AND a heart! The two communicate constantly and I don't believe that this is by chance! Our hearts serve a noble purpose...the two that I mentioned above seem to be the greatest. Our brain has it's own purpose...it is the 'communicator' of our bodies! It is CONSTANTLY at work giving our bodies information....if NOT for the brain, our heart rate would ONLY mean that our beats per second are high or low. It's our brain that discerns our heart beats from those of a hurried pace and those of moments of passion...aka "Love".
My problem with leading with one's heart is that it lacks reasoning. It puts us in a "If it feels good do it" mentality. Again, without reasoning, there is nothing cautioning us against consequences. Who doesn't enjoy falling in love?! It changes every thing when this magic occurs! But, when the emotion dies....what then? We find ourselves in a revolving door of false hope...looking for the next 'magic'. Love isn't as easy as emotion...it demands reason! Does this person make me a better person? Am I happiest with this person? Reason will permit us to see our partner's imperfection, but inspire us to endure the down times for the heights of the good times. Reason allows for hope! Heart AND reason MUST come together for us to realize our greatest hope!
In summary, I believe that there MUST be a balance! Where our hearts and minds intersect, I find that the best answers to relationships reside! Too much reasoning and man and woman would NEVER unite! Truly, one is from Mars and the other is from Jupiter! Understanding each other can be as futile an effort as any might ever know! Too much heart responds only to a present emotion that will change as quickly as the wind. True gold sits at the crossroad of the heart and mind. The is wealth awaiting us all! Don't settle for fools gold...we weren't created to be fools!
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